People that work in the wedding industry, have you ever seen a couple and immediately thought “this ends in divorce”? Why?
It happened like a month ago. I usually parked my car outside of an Liquor store since it was free parking and it always seemed to be available. One day I’m getting out of my car and this random old drunk stumbled out of the store and corners me up against my car. He reeks, doesn’t have his mask on and keeps on eyeing me up and down while asking very personal questions. He’s close enough that the only way I can get out of the situation is pushing him away but I didn’t want to touch him. Suddenly my savior appears, a guy that works in the store bursts out exclaiming “babe you’re late for your shift” then proceeds to hug me. I GLADLY give Into his hug and whisper “thank you” the old guy gets mad and walks away mumbling something like “effing tease”. The guy then asked if I was okay, apologized for not being able to run out sooner and offers to walk me to my destination. I ended up buying him a coffee.
Yes they can.
My ex bf was abusive, he did all kinds of drugs and drank way too much for someone his age (we were 16 at the time) He ended up going to therapy and turned his whole life around. He contacted me years later wanting to apologize and prove he is no longer that person. We are now friends and he’s one of the sweetest and most caring people I know. He now volunteers regularly and has been clean of anything for about 4 years. People can change, they just need the right push.
Jan 12 '21
How/when did you realize you were the ‘golden child’ of your family?
Probably donate a big chunk of it and invest the rest. After that travel the world and work with different charities.
The number of of lives I made easier. I’ve always tried my best to help people out and even talked some out of suicide. It wouldn’t be to boost my ego, it just makes me happy to know I made life a little softer for someone.
When a guy tries to be ‘alpha’. I know many people like that but to me it’s always been ridiculous. If we’ve both got strong personalities that’s completely okay but don’t try and take control of everything for me.
Yes, they were right. Not talking about looks btw.
The guy seemed nice and caring at first and ended up being a manipulative ass who tried to isolate me from everything I love in my life. I ended up dumping him and he’s currently still trying to drag my name through the mud a year later.
Jan 04 '21
I don’t know hat to do and I’m freaking out (trigger warning)
Okay so... here’s my side of the story:
In my case, I’m the influencer. In my country I’m fairly known among teens and YA (16-27) on tiktok and a couple other platforms. I myself didn’t notice the change between my videos and real life but here’s a few things my friends, and some random people, have told me:
-my accent changes: Im from a Spanish speaking country and we tend to have a singsong accent when we speak. In my videos though, I speak with a more Mexican accent and tend to pull my words more.
-I’m more confident: in real life I’m not shy but I’m definitely more conscious of looking good and making a proper appearance and in my videos ive literally posted some in my pjs and 0 makeup. (One of my friends even pointed out it was the first time they’ve seen me without makeup on)
-I cry a lot: I can honestly say only about 4 of my friends have ever seen me cry irl and at this point I think I’ve posted about 7 videos of me crying and talking about things that hurt me.
-I’m more positive: I’ve been diagnosed with depression since I was 14 (currently 21) and in my videos Im usually super hyper and positive even going as far as giving advice.
-I’m more secretive about my sexuality: I’m bisexual and everyone in my life knows it since I’ve never really tried to hide it. In my videos and lives though, I always refuse to answer questions about my sexuality and state that I don’t like labels.
Ive got more but this just got too long, I hope you enjoy😂
Every time I try to talk to her about even the smallest fights she ends up yelling at me and being even more condescending. At this point I’m tired, I’m not a confrontational person and have to be pushed really hard for me to yell back and I don’t want things to get to that point. I do want the relationship back but I’m over her attitude towards me.
Dec 28 '20
How do I fix this?
My brothers need me.
Im latin but look white, most ‘Americans’ don’t pay me any attention until they hear me speak Spanish and it’s pretty much the other way around when latins hear me speak English.
Dec 22 '20
When did you realize you were giving out red flags and what were they?
Dec 22 '20
Where do you draw the line when it comes to best friends?
Why is she / he important to you?
My ex and I are back together and things are amazing.
From my music teacher: “people are like trains, they take you into different stations and parts of your life. Sometimes you get off and hop on another one and sometimes you take the same one multiple times and others don’t ever come back” I don’t know if people see it the same way as I do but it really changed my POV on life.
I used to be friends with this one girl who always felt the need to compete with me. She always had to be prettier, smarter, get all the boys, etc. I usually just let things pass since she was close to some of my other friends but what finally made me de use to end our friendship was when my best friend told me to come over to her house and talk. She talked for about two hours just telling me about all the awful stuff this girl had said about me.
Here are some of her highlights:
- she wished my friend didn’t hang out with me anymore because I was a lesbian (I’m bi) and i was definitely hitting on all of them.
- I shouldn’t be allowed into the girls locker room because I’m obviously just in there to stare at naked women.
- she told a girl that I was sleeping with her boyfriend and he’d been cheating on her with me the whole time they were in a relationship (also not true)
- she said I took advantage one night that she was drunk and kissed her (she kissed me I had a gf at that time and pushed her away)
- she spread rumors that I was sleeping with about 3 different guys
-she broke into my computer and read through all my messages with friends and family and then proceeded to use that information against me
-switched my non alcoholic drinks for ones with alcohol (I was on medication and couldn’t drink at the time)
And many other things but I cut her out of my life, she’s currently trying to apologize and crawl her way back into my life. I forgave her for all she did but I don’t trust her at all.
My friends and I have this system, whenever one of us has to rant we ask “do you guys have mental space for this?” Whoever says no simply leaves, no questions asked. People that can and want to hear the rant stay and help. This way no one gets overwhelmed with information they can’t handle at the moment and people get to rant to people that will actually pay attention.
As an empath, I try to understand we’re they’re coming from and think about how I would’ve reacted in their situation. After I’ve understood that, I think about if they deserve forgiveness, most times they do, and then ones when they don’t I just move on from the situation. If they come back and chance for the better good, if they don’t then I didn’t lose anything.
Oct 04 '20
AITA for telling my sister I still have bad ptsd about our worst fight ever