r/AskReddit 7d ago

People that work in the wedding industry, have you ever seen a couple and immediately thought “this ends in divorce”? Why?

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u/Twitfried 7d ago

Photographing the groom and you see his eyes light up when a guest arrives. You look over and it’s a cute woman in a short dress. He smiles, walks up to the woman, picks her up and swings her in his arms.

Best smile I captured of the groom all day. Marriage didn’t last 6 months from what I’ve heard.

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u/apinkparfait 7d ago

Woa that's really sad

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u/Twitfried 7d ago

I agree. They hired 1 primary and 2 secondary photographers to capture the event. HUGE wedding party--I think it was like 20 people. They had over a hundred people attend a huge church wedding. I couldn't hardly get emotion from the bride or groom. It was like there was something going on the entire time. The bride seemed really nervous. Groom just didn't show emotion.

I did the best I could given what they would give me. Then that happened...before the wedding, as the guests were arriving, and right in front of the church and everyone.

She could have been a lover, a best friend, or a family member. Who knows. It was just really weird to finally see his reaction, and nothing like that for his bride.

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u/-Economist- 7d ago

I went to a wedding where these two appeared madly in love. I've known them since college. They were always acting like kids in love. The passion and emotion just oozed from them. A week after the wedding one of my other friends said he had sex with the bride in their hotel room the day of the wedding, while the groom party was golfing. He had just met her a couple of days earlier. Right after the honeymoon, they went back to having an affair. She got pregnant. Marriage was over within months..maybe 5 or 6 months. The most odd sequence of events. You just never know what's really going on in relationships.

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u/MyVeryRealName 7d ago

Asshole move by the bride and the friend.

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u/macjaddie 7d ago

That sounds like one we went to. The groom was walking around holding hands with a woman who wasn’t his wife. A year or so later he left his wife for her.

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u/mooncricket18 7d ago

I’m a therapist and marriage counseling a lot of times is unfortunately divorce counseling. If your spouse talks about it, go. People wait way too long.

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u/perumbula 7d ago

When my husband and I got married we both agreed that no one gets a veto card on couples therapy. If one of us felt it was needed, we would go. Neither of us has asked yet but it’s nice to know that we have that fall back if we need it. (26 years. You never know. )

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u/MissCarolineC 7d ago

At a wedding when the “I do’s” came, the groom said, “I guess”.

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u/apinkparfait 7d ago

This may be the biggest ooof on this entire comment section

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u/JohnGB 7d ago

I have a friend who is a wedding photographer - a rather busy and expensive one at that, so people usually book a year in advance. So she had a bride book the wedding date and pay the deposit (nothing unusual there). The bride confirmed the venue (also booked and pricey), and had the general discussions with her about the style that she wanted etc. They had regular meetings over the following months, but the groom was never there (a bit unusual, but not unheard of). So it's now 4 weeks before the wedding and they have the meeting to lock down all the details, but still no groom. My friend asks about him, and the bride mentions for the first time that she isn't engaged.

Okay, maybe she has a long term boyfriend and is planning a surprise wedding... No, it turns out that she doesn't have a boyfriend or any guy in mind. But she prayed about it and god told her to trust that he will provide a groom for her...

So, in the end, no groom magically materialised, and there was no wedding.

So in that case, the marriage lasted 0 minutes and we were all sure that it wasn't going to work out. In fact at the time we had some running jokes about her meeting a guy on a date and asking him if he wants to go to a wedding with her next weekend.

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u/Dustin_McReviss 7d ago

Ok, this made me say "WOW" outloud, in such a way that all three cats were startled.

WOW.

I have so many thoughts and feelings.

WOW.

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u/DeadKateAlley 7d ago

Smells like a manic episode.

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u/Resident-Pangolin-24 7d ago

I don’t work in the industry, just have my own personal story.

My boyfriend and I got invited to his (female) coworker’s wedding. We used to go dancing with her while she was engaged, her boyfriend was stationed on the East Coast. Her fiancé didn’t take kindly to a male coworker showing up to the wedding (that we were INVITED TO, and I even went to her bridal shower) so the groom sent his dad to threaten my boyfriend into leaving because they work in the same industry (I.e. “I have connections, you’ll never work in ___ again.” Even though he was retired.) Groom also refused to dance with the bride except for photos, and she loved to line dance so she was crushed. All of us who cared about the bride knew her groom was just a shitty guy.

They lasted a year.

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u/SamLJacksonNarrator 7d ago

Was at a friend’s wedding once, it was at the justice of the peace, when the judge or officiant came around to if anyone doesn’t believe in the union to speak up or forever hold your peace, a loud “UH-OH” came shrieking from the back.

It was my friends 2 Year old son, everybody was joking saying it was a sign. Less than a year later the couple got divorced

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u/jalorky 7d ago

He has the sight, this was its first manifestation

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u/ChronosDustorm 7d ago

It was the third time the bride had hired me and all the guys had been carbon copies.

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u/no1ofconsequencedied 7d ago

She clearly had a type.

The type wasn't working, but she wasn't going to let that stop her.

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u/Heidan20 7d ago

She wasn’t a quitter

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u/carl1435 7d ago

Well, except for the previous marriages.

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u/ashrynn 7d ago

Throw enough darts at the wall and eventually one will stick.

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u/DrHawk144 7d ago

Did you have to write the second and third guys’ names on your hand? I had a client like this once. He had a very particular type. No clue how he managed to find 3+ of the same woman, regardless after I called number 3 number 2’s name on accident I had to start writing her name down on my hand to avoid that happening anymore. (Real estate consultant)

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u/_LurkasaurusRex_ 7d ago

My sister introduced someone to my uncle and "his new wife". She meant it like "newly/recently wedded" but he understood it as "new as opposed to his old wives, the next one" and he stormed out of the event.

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u/kittykittybangbang92 7d ago

Seems me be 1 common factor in all these failed marriages..... you

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u/ItsAllegorical 7d ago

Do you have any friends her type? Sounds like a real money-maker. Can't walk away from repeat business like that.

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u/JoeEIRE 7d ago

When the bride and groom argued over why the grooms mother shouldn’t get all money given to them on their wedding day. Ya that was a red flag.

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u/chanzii 7d ago

Hahaha my ex tried to convince me to let his mum take the money that night and we'd collect it the next afternoon when we got back from our hotel stay. Fat chance I'd let the extreme gamblers hold on to that much cash.

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u/Much_Difference 7d ago edited 7d ago

My now-ex's parents were determined to "hold" all the catering leftovers for us, and everyone who wasn't me, the groom, or the groom's siblings thought I was fucking out of my mind when I put my foot down and said absolutely not, I will personally put those leftovers in my own car and drive them to my own parents' house if need be, fuck off, no chance.

Ex's parents have a large, very pretty yard and occasionally host small events there, like local graduation party type stuff, nothing massive. But it makes them a little side cash. They're also greedy and miserable scamming assholes.

They had a complete meltdown and finally admitted that they'd sold tickets to a catered meal at their place that very night and our wedding leftovers were the entire meal down to the cake and everything. They contributed $0 to the wedding or catering, not that it matters, but they had no leg in the world to assume that food was theirs. They sold our fucking leftover wedding cake weeks ahead of time. They had to rush home and order pizza for their, uh, fancy catered dinner.

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u/Painting_Agency 7d ago

This is one of the funniest things I've ever heard. Not funny for you of course, but I just can't imagine what kind of LUNATIC would sell tickets to eat wedding leftovers they just assumed they could get their hands on. I hope they lost money on the deal XD

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u/wessiewench 7d ago

This just blew my mind, you should post this in r/entitledpeople. Mental. People are mental!

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u/Much_Difference 7d ago

You should've seen my face when I discovered the narcissist parents sub. It is them to a fucking T. Once they admitted what was up, I knew exactly what bullshit they would've pulled once we discovered our leftovers were gone: some crap about why don't you love us, family helps each other out, why do you want us to be sad and poor, we were honoring your wedding by sharing it even further, blah blah.

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u/Deesing82 7d ago

we were honoring your wedding by sharing it even further

my god

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u/shadow8555 7d ago

Say what??!! The nerve!

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u/Smart-Connection6154 7d ago

One of my close friends asked everyone to give cash or gift cards instead of presents, because they already had a house with everything they needed.

At the reception, her dad stands up for his speech and offers the gifted money to the Buddist temple where their family went. My friend was mortified, her husband got super angry, but it was done. There must have been 200+ people at that wedding, that temple got a HUGE "donation".

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u/Cayvin 7d ago

But why did they let that happen? I mean yeah the dad said that, but why did they just give him the money to donate?

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u/eyekwah2 7d ago

Ever heard the expression, "There are two sure ways of losing a friend: one is lending money, and the other is borrowing money"?

If there's one thing I've learned is that people get very uptight over money issues, and it's important to make everything clear and transparent so that everyone can agree on it, especially when it comes to a marriage or it can go sideways fast. The father of the bride make a dick move. I can totally sympathize with the husband.

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u/pm_me_your_molars 7d ago

They had a big fight the night before the wedding and were considering calling it off. Until the bride showed up 30 minutes before the ceremony, no one was sure if she would be there at all. The groom danced with his MOM more times than he did with the bride. The bride was snippy and nitpicky with the staff all night. The word "annullment" was cast around and I hope to god they went through with it the next day because holy shit.

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u/Cadence_828 7d ago

Did they sign the papers at the ceremony? Usually those don’t get filed until at least the next day

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u/fadetowhite 7d ago edited 7d ago

I’ve been right a few times for sure. Photographer here.

One groom was so full of himself, but did that “Whatever you want, my Queen” thing where he wants to be seen as this great guy, but really he’s a self-absorbed dick. He was a “chef” and fucking loved telling people that.

It was a quick engagement and marriage, and I got the feeling maybe too quick. The wedding and reception were to be at his parents place, and his mom had a lot of input, as did his sister. The bride got shut down whenever she talked.

On the day of the wedding, I arrive to shoot the bride getting ready. She is alone with the hair and makeup person. I initially thought that person was a friend, but she wasn’t. Her bridesmaids were not there. Two hours go by. She can’t get a hold of them. The makeup person leaves. I help her put her veil on and do up her shoes. I am feeling so bad for her, and also awkward as fuck. This is supposed to be her big day and here is basically a stranger putting her veil on and telling her she looks great.

Finally, the bridesmaids come in. The maid of honour is the groom’s sister. When the bride questions them, the sister says they went out for breakfast. The bride asks why they wouldn’t tell her or bring her food and they get pissy, like she’s being bridezilla. Then it comes out that the groom was invited for breakfast, along with the groomsmen. And they all had started drinking. It’s only 11:30am and the bridal party is half lit. The kicker? None of the bridesmaids are dressed or have their hair or makeup done. The wedding is in 30mins.

I get 0 photos of the bridesmaids. I run to shoot the groomsmen. They are doing shots. I get some great photos of them because they’re drunk and all dressed up and feeling great.

Wedding happens and that part is fine. We are supposed to go to a nearby beach and trail for photos. This never happens because the groom is literally talking to every person in attendance in the longest receiving line situation I have ever seen. He keeps drinking. The meal happens and takes forever. The sun is about to set. I tell the couple I literally have 0 photos of them alone together and we need to go.

He says “Yeah, yeah after the speeches.”

He gets up to speak after several of his friends and his sister do 10-minute speeches and he goes on. And on. And on. Most of it has nothing to do with his new bride. 30mins into his speech and the sun has set. He finally finishes and I approach the bride. She just looks at me, defeated, and says, “You can just go home now.”

Groom was in the middle of a group of people, chugging a beer and laughing loudly while his beautiful new bride sat alone, seemingly wondering what the fuck she got herself into.

I delivered the images and they didn’t pay the remainder amount. I got a million excuses. After a month, I finally texted him and said I was going through small claims. The next day he sent an EFT with an angry message about hounding him and giving me a bad review.

I saw her six months later at a restaurant and before I could ask, she told me she left him.

Saw him a few months ago working at a liquor store downtown - I guess being a chef didn’t work out (a friend told me they know of him and he got fired from three restaurants). He ignored me while he flirted hard with this woman. I shit you not - just before we left he said to her, “I’m off in 5 minutes. I’ll walk with you to that store. I’ll tell Charlie to put that delicious Cab Sauv aside for you.” So smooth. Good luck, lady.

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u/AnchorBuddy 7d ago

A few times as a photographer. The couple were usually fine, the families themselves were too different and combative.

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u/zmv73 7d ago

This is why my husband and I eloped. We keep our families as separate as possible. His side isn't bad and my paternal aunt's and uncles are cool, so they would probably be fine. But, having my immediate family interact with his immediate family just makes me cringe. Think hardcore republican vs suburban democrats.

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u/ButaneLilly 7d ago

This is why my husband and I eloped. We keep our families as separate as possible.

Can you please... talk to my wife?

We're both from abusive dysfunctional families. In the beginning we bonded over our commitment to escaping our families and their toxicity. I go to great lengths to keep my family out of our lives she clings for dear life to her shitty, abusive family.

This literally isn't what I signed up for. Why would I want to spend time with people who have emotionally abused and bullied my wife and crippled her self-esteem? I hate these people.

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u/Alcohol_Intolerant 7d ago

Have y'all tried couple's therapy? Or at least suggested you both go to individual therapy? It can be very good for recognizing unhealthy patterns.

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u/zmv73 7d ago

I second this. Personal therapy really helped me figure out how to make boundaries in my life. The premarital counseling we did also helped us figure out how we wanted to interact with each other's families.

I empathize with both of you guys cause its hard to see someone you love bashing their head into the same wall, but also it's really hard to let go of familial relationships. Especially if there are events or weekly calls or something that are habitual.

I knew i wanted to go no contact with my mom, but it took be three years to actually get to that point. It was baby steps. First explaining what I expected of her when we were talking and ending conversations whenevee she ignored those expectations. Then I started blocking her number for longer and longer periods of time when she fucked up. The breaking point of not talking to her at all was when my sister complained to me about her behavior. My mom was listening to my boundaries, but obviously she was still the same ugly person just waiting to lull me into a false sense of security. Even after that whenever I'm walking around a store or down the block i get the urge to call her, cause that's when we'd talk.

It's hard and I hope you guys can work as a team to build boundaries around your life together.

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u/elkwaffle 7d ago

Oh my god yes. My and my fiance would be married by now if the idea of our families actually meeting wasn't absolutely horrifying.

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u/MarvelousShiggyDiggy 7d ago

I don't work in the wedding industry but I have a depressing wedding story.

I have a friend who I grew up with, she was always gorgeous and incredibly popular with guys and I always thought she was a great person. As I got older I came to realise she was actually extremely toxic in relationships and did better when she was single. She had been seeing a new guy for two months when one day I receive a wedding invitation in the mail. Knowing her history it was a massive red flag for me. I turn up to the wedding and it's at a gorgeous little backyard type wedding, it's spring and everything looks perfect. I greet her family and it's like I've turned up to a funeral, not a wedding. They're all extremely solemn and when I ask about the groom her mother rolls her eyes and says "This. Is. A. Mistake."

Wedding commences and as the bride comes down the aisle her face is grey and like she would rather be anywhere else. They exchange vows while the bride does everything in her power to not touch her husband to be, even standing a solid metre away from him as they stand at the front. She actually cringes and looks away when he gets choked up saying how much he loves her. When the priest announces the kiss the bride takes a slow step forward and presents her cheek for him to kiss instead of her lips. No one cheers, it's just an awkward shuffling of feet and a few scattered claps. It was the worst wedding I've ever been to.

They lasted about 3 months, before separating.

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u/WrecktheRIC 7d ago

Wow. Why did she even do it?

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u/MarvelousShiggyDiggy 7d ago

Convenience really, and fear of being alone? She was a little older and had always thought she would be married and have the whole white picket fence lifestyle before she was 25 but ended up getting married closer to 40?

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u/mesembryanthemum 7d ago

I work and n a hotel. I came in one night to find the wedding was already wrapped up (it was supposed to go until 1 AM and it was 11 PM) because the wedding couple had a fight and she went home with mom.

At another one they had a huge rehearsal dinner fight which spilled out into the lobby. Everyone in the lobby found out that she hated his parents, she was pregnant and she had no idea who the father was, and a few other things. Half the guest list packed up and checked out the next day. They still got married.

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u/GreggInKC1234 7d ago

Wow! Scared of the “other few things”. What’s left? You listed the top 3 worst things to hear at a wedding

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u/mesembryanthemum 7d ago

I think maybe she insulted his job; I no longer remember what I was told. It was very clear that he loved her and she maybe did but she was also a toxic person.

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u/Mr5yy 7d ago

Cheating with a best man was probably another. That's one of the only things that can match up with these 3.

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u/jbear4525 7d ago

Groom's father

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u/donttouchmycupcake 7d ago

What?! They still got married, that's crazy!

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u/JacquiTS 7d ago

Heard from a friend who did calligraphy that a bride came to get wedding invites and the usual wording of 'bride mum and dad and groom mum and dad invite you to the wedding of bride and groom" , bride didn't want grooms parents names on the invite. My mate did an invite mock-up called the couple for a check and the groom lost it, because grooms parents were the ones paying for most of the wedding. They didn't need any invites.

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u/Eggsegret 7d ago edited 7d ago

Not actually in the industry but i have helped out a friend with a few weddings. Two of the weddings i could just tell they weren't going to make it. The first wedding the bride and groom hardly talked the entire wedding. It was like they had nothing in common. And then later the groom pretty much fucks off half way through and went home because i quote "he was tired". So he just left his bride having to take pictures with the wedding guests on her own. He never came back that evening so she had to greet everyone off etc. Funny enough about a year later i heard they're filing for divorce.

Another time was actually last summer. Just before the wedding speeches the groom went go hang out with his friends for like half an hour leaving the bride sitting there alone and delaying the speeches. Then right after the bride and groom cut the cake he once again went to go hang out with his friends and abandoned his wife. So she was left alone having to mingle with all the guests and he made no interaction with her side of the guests. He stuck with his friends the rest of the evening. His wife basically had to go and beg him to come and take more wedding pictures. At one point in the evening he actually went for a drive with his friends for about an hour and his wife had no idea where he was. I mean i get wanting to mingle with your friends at your wedding but to not even mingle with your wife's family or friends on your wedding day seems quite rude.

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u/bluelightsdick 7d ago

Sounds like him and his buds were off getting baked. And re-baked.

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u/Aeshaetter 7d ago

A drive for an hour? They were getting high.

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u/MrBashew 7d ago

Wedding dj here. Had a wedding a few years ago where the groom was a total dickhead. When it was his turn to make a speech he refused to make one. When the bride's sister begged him to please make a speech or at least just tell the bride she looks beautiful, he got up took the mic mumbled to her that she looks beautiful and sat back down.

When I left after the wedding was done I was walking to my van with some gear and the I saw the bride sitting one side crying. Found out a few days later that the groom hit her 3 days before the wedding and he tried to hit her at the wedding again when she asked him to not drink so much and pace himself.

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u/haribomonster69 7d ago

Damn that's horrible.

What a POS

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u/MrBashew 7d ago

Major POS. Dude was a dick to all the service providers that day. I bumped into the bride a year or two after the wedding and she told me that they got divorced 4 months after the wedding.

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u/Dysthymia_ 7d ago

Good on her

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u/EggzBenedict04 7d ago

Bruh he the whole shit not just a piece

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u/JaimeSalas831 7d ago edited 7d ago

Its sad reading so many of these replies and realizing most of these couples probably weren't even friends to each other.

Edit: Didn't expect so many responses. Thanks for sharing, I always love a good thread. Honestly tho, some of these made me realize how lucky I am to have found my favorite person. How hope y'all find yours soon, if you haven't already!

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u/banjonica 7d ago

Amazing. Why do they do it? What is going through their heads! Some of these stories....holy shit...

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u/PepperFinn 7d ago

Quite often because one person wants a WEDDING forgetting that as soon as the party is over they're stuck in that relationship with their new spouse.

They're doing it to please external figures / external pressure (you're almost 40 and not married! You shame our family / this person is an x! Don't let them get away! / You knocked them up, you marry them)

If they are very young and/or religious - escape from parents rule and gonna get jiggy every night! Yeah! Boning is a great reason to marry!

I'd like to think I got married because I wanted to spend the rest of my life with my husband and wanted to celebrate our love with our friends and family. But hey, maybe that makes me weird.

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u/Khraxter 7d ago

There's also the people who just put the pressure on themselves for a variety of reasons.

"That's the normal thing to do"

"I'm afraid of dying alone"

These people end up in miserable relationships, but won't ever break up, and will even double down by having kids.

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u/shallotthot 7d ago edited 7d ago

I work for a catering company... I knew they were going to get a divorce as soon as the bride started grinding on the best man when the groom was puking his guts out in the corner.

Edit: Grammar

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u/mercuryrising137 7d ago

Many years ago I had a side hustle doing cakes and would often get orders for wedding cakes. Long story short, the bride to be threw a full-fledged stompy-footed tantrum, locking herself in my bathroom and refused to come out because the groom was "unreasonably insisting" on having a say in what the cake flavour was going to be. Like, I'd say through the door, "Get out of my bathroom!" and all I'd get was a whiny defiant little "NoooOooooooOooooooooO!!!!!!" IIRC she was about 22.

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u/jewel7210 7d ago

Holy shit, that’s embarrassing. Did you end up making a cake for them in the end, or did you tell them to screw off? Was there even a wedding to make a cake for at all after that?!

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u/Scoobymaybe 7d ago

I worked fine dining/catering for over 20 years so Iʻve worked lots of weddings and receptions. I once heard a bride at the reception during the toasts say that she actually thought she was asking out the grooms twin brother on their first date and that might actually be cute except she ...just kept going on. How the twin was more compatible, etc. then she ended the toast with "well...as nice as you are youʻll make a great first husband". I was walking past the camera man at that time and you can hear me on tape saying " did you get that? Tell me you got that".

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u/lydsbane 7d ago

I want so badly to believe that this is some kind of joke between them, that most (if not all) of the guests were aware of.

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u/frenchtoaster 7d ago

I do feel like that one sounds like it could be an inside joke in a prepared speech to me. I also can imagine a bride saying it with just slightly the wrong tone and then no one laughing

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u/TheHellCourtesan 7d ago

I dunno. I once went to a wedding where a friend, serving as best man, gave a speech about how shocked he was that the two grooms were getting married instead of him and groom #1. It was hilarious. Clearly a joke. It absolutely killed and the whole room was full of riotous laughter.

Cut to three weeks later, best man has gotten wasted, hit a cop car while driving, fled the scene and slipped on some ice, getting a nasty head wound. Groom 1 shows up to check on him and in the hospital room he had a TOTAL MELTDOWN and basically delivers his rehearsal dinner toast but this time it’s a mournful and tragic monologue, screamed down a hospital hallway as he was restrained by policemen.

So the first time, the “joke,” yeah, that was more fun.

EDIT: I wanted to add that during all of this Best Man was engaged to someone else! Also, I no longer roll with these queens. Just needed to get that out there.

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u/SaladConCarne 7d ago

I know few twins, there is always jokes like this one.

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u/psnWaikato 7d ago

I work in the industry (side hobby) and I saw it before entering.

Recent husband came to me, a total stranger to him, and asked what I would do if I found my fiance fucking her dance partner 3 weeks before the wedding.

I just shook my head and walked away.

2 months.

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u/Blurrlogic 7d ago

2 months.

that lasted 2 months too long.

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u/PM_ME_UR_CREDDITCARD 7d ago

2 months and 3 weeks too long

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u/true-romance 7d ago

Used to serve at a lot of weddings. At one very expensive engagement party the groom got drunk and tried to pick a fight with one of the servers. He then punched another guest and had to be walked out. Bride seemed upset but not shocked.

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u/punkwalrus 7d ago

I perform ceremonies as an officiant, and know other officiants. The worst (IMHO) are the weddings that are just a bad idea. The couple is young, inexperienced, and selfish. I mean, even courthouse weddings can last decades, but if you have a wedding that is clearly not planned out, they are often not though out as well. Weddings that are rebellious as a "fuck you daddy, I am 19 and marry who I want!" I give about 2 years, especially if the bride and groom are out of sync with one another, or one just looks like "this was the other's idea primarily."

Oddly enough, weddings with cheesy themes (Star Wars, Elvis, etc) last longer than the traditional styles. I have theories on that, but don't have enough data that's not anecdotal to back it up. But I think casual weddings where everyone is relaxed, happy, and having a good time because the wedding is about celebrating rather than ceremony will last the longest.

A sense of humor helps. If both the bride and groom are relaxed and silly with one another, those last the longest.

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u/Sporkalork 7d ago

Cheesy themes =shared interests/hobbies?

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u/WhapXI 7d ago

Not just that but they clearly value the shared interest to the same degree. You both have to like the thing a whole dang lot to base your wedding on it.

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u/big_sugi 7d ago

Also selection bias. No one gets married just to have Star Wars wedding, so you weed out most of the people who just want a wedding and not a spouse.

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u/sushisection 7d ago

ironically, Star Wars marriages last longer than Padme and Anakin's marriage

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u/SuperConfusedCoryn 7d ago edited 6d ago

Not sure if this belongs here, since I'm really sure that they got divorced after, but anyway:

I was helping out at my parents restaurant where a huge wedding party was hosted. I was busy serving drinks and suddenly loud yelling and screaming startet right behind me. Turns out the bride had somehow found out that the groom had hooked up with her sister right before the wedding ceremony (and apparently on a few occasions before) and in her anger she stabbed him in the chest with a dinner fork several times.

We had to call an ambulance and the police. It was like hell

Edit: I didn't expected this story to blow up that much, but since a bunch of people asked: I just called my mom and asked about this story and apparently the (former) brides parents are still regular guests at my parents restaurant (not for weddings though) and according to my mother they told that the groom and the bride's sister now actually have two children together and are planning on getting married, but had to cancel their wedding multiple time due covid-19

Edit II: Since a bunch of people asked: No, I don't know what happend to the bride or how she and her family get anlong now, and neither does my mom. I don't think she went to jail for this though, she probably got sentenced to a fine or probation (This story takes place in Germany, she probably got sentenced in accordance with Section 224 I S2 StGB aka dangerous bodily harm).

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u/GodofWitsandWine 7d ago

She wasn't stabbing him, she was testing to see if he was done.

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u/SirTyronne 7d ago

If he ain't worthy of spooning, ladies, fork him.

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u/Ausman20 7d ago

I'd even go as far as to say that wasn't very knife of her

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u/BoJackB26354 7d ago

And they say cutlery is dead.

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u/IndubitablyMoist 7d ago

I always wondered what people think of the sister in cases like this. Obviously the guys a scum but it takes two to tango, no?

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u/DRHdez 7d ago

Divorce, and attempted murder. I think you win.

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u/NotaBodder 7d ago

Was working at a hotel during a wedding weekend and the father of the bride and the groom were caught masterbating one another by one of the staff 2 days before the wedding. We all had a bit of a giggle and assumed this was some sort of misunderstanding... there were weird ideas thrown around like: maybe there is a family tradition where they hold eachothers ducks while they kiss or some shit like that..... anyway...... theybarenall still in good spirits and the wedding goes ahead.

At 7:57pm on the night of the wedding I brought the bottle of champagne up to the room along with some other things we did for a wedding night. (Normally before they check in but they were already staying in that room before they got married)

I was told there is nobody in the room and the groom is downstairs and the bride is supposed to be out getting photos or something.

I knock (we had to even qhen we new somebody was in there) then quickly open the door and walk straight in. The bride is bent over the chair with her wedding dress over her head and the best man is pounding her from behind. I just left the champagne on the ground and left.

One seriously fucked up family, but they all tipped well

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u/loungehead 7d ago

but they all tipped well

Especially the best man, apparently.

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u/9787878 7d ago

No no it’s all wholesome here. They were doing a little son-father in law bonding and the bride was meeting her husbands best friend.

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u/thin_white_dutchess 7d ago

I’m a photographer and I’ve shot 3 weddings bc I hate them and they are not for me. Bless you guys who do it, but it’s too much work and drama for me, and not worth the money. Anyway, one of the weddings, the groom called the bride unattractive (she was stunning and used to model, was maybe a size 2, and he was cute, but generic cute), he kept taking shots of vodka with his boys, and asked for a full on photo shoot with his mom. He was definitely a mama’s boy, bc mom was hovering, but you know it’s bad when mom suggests that he maybe take some photos with his wife. He told me to stfu every time I redirected, so after the 3rd time that happened (and he flashed me his junk?), I started packing up. When he started yelling at me, I just told him no one talks to me like that, and I’d send them a refund. I knew right then that it wouldn’t last. He started crying and said he’d behave. He did, but it didn’t matter bc 2 weeks later the marriage was annulled. No one wanted the photos. I was paid in full for photos no one wanted. Bride’s dad had paid me, and tipped me well too. When I offered to refund him half anyway, he said the bride knew when the groom yelled at me and cried that it wasn’t going to work, so I earned it. I guess the whole fam was trying to get them to call it off.

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u/D3cay1ng_0blivion 7d ago

That wouldbe father in law is a good man. I hope that woman found someone who deserved her

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u/JADW27 7d ago

I thought this thread might have some fun stories. Turns out they're just sad.

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u/apinkparfait 7d ago

C'mon some of them like the high couple losing their shit over alpacas are pretty funny.

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u/Kind_Athlete_281 7d ago

Catered weddings for a year or so, here's some of the more bat shit ones off the top of my head:

Entire wedding party dropped molly about an hour into the wedding, bride was colossally fucked up while the groom looked like he shit himself while staring at the alpacas they hired to take pictures with. (Yes they hired alpacas, no I don't know why.)

Bridezilla screamed at our serving team for serving too much chicken and not leaving enough for her, after she refused to eat untill 3 hours past dinner service. Groom was nowhere to be found after that.

Brides mom tried to fuck one of our chefs, a very good looking 6'3 italian man. Bride had to pull her away from the kitchen two times, causing a fun argument between the brides mom and dad. Bride started crying and the groom decided to disappear to go take a few shots instead of comforting his wife.

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u/FlowerFuneral 7d ago

I don’t know, I feel like the alpaca ecstasy spouses are probably still together. Sounds like they’re on the same level.

I will use any excuse to hang out with an alpaca. I’ve seen one or two couples get them for weddings or engagement photos on r/alpaca

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u/mr_pineapples44 7d ago

Stealing Alpaca Ecstasy Spouses as my next band name.

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u/SchiroccoMID 7d ago

i thought this was all one wedding then i reread OP's statement about it being a few stories and not just one major clusterfuck

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u/Awesome_Sauce1155 7d ago

Yikes I thought it was one wedding too!

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u/pipsel03 7d ago edited 7d ago

Yes. One of my brides was nervous and got so drunk before the ceremony that she had to be helped down the aisle. Then when the ceremony was over, instead of kissing the groom ("we now pronounce you man and wife") she licked him from chin to eyeball. She fell during the recessional and knocked over a waiter carrying champagne. She couldn't be in their post ceremony photoshoot because she kept falling. When it was time to cut the cake, we couldn't find her. Our staff went to her hotel room and found her covered in her own vomit, still in her wedding dress. She had the audacity to ask for a refund after all of this. They're divorced now...

Edited to note: This was a symbolic ceremony and they were legally married beforehand. Overall the situation was quite sad.

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u/thefuzzybunny1 7d ago

A friend of mine ran a country club that had a similar incident. The couple demanded to rent the whole place on Valentine's Day, which of course doubled the price for everything, because you know who's busy on V Day? Florists, caterers, bakeries... And they had all kinds of weird specifications, like wanting the entree to be steak carved into heart shapes. It basically would've been cheaper to end world hunger than to throw this wedding.

The bride got so drunk before getting there that she had alcohol poisoning during cocktail hour and the entire party had to be cancelled.

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u/jimmy_three_shoes 7d ago

Used to moonlight as a musician for hire in college, and did more than a few weddings. Saw many that raised an eyebrow but the two that really stood out as rough:

Groom was super emotional and smiling when the bride first appeared at the church doors to walk down the aisle, and the bride was more interested in "holla-ing" at her family and friends as she made her way down the aisle. I don't think she looked at the Groom once on her way down. You just saw his face drop, as she got closer, and had no interest in even looking at the man she was about to marry.

The other, I had heard from the wedding planner, that the bride and her bridesmaids had gone through at least 10 bottles of champagne throughout the morning, and all were ridiculously drunk. And to keep playing no matter what happens.

Well, 2 of the 3 bridesmaids fell and had trouble getting up on the way down the aisle, the bride and the maid of honor made it down the aisle, but had great difficulty. The groom basically was holding the bride up for the entirety of the ceremony, and she very loudly refused a chair. Also the flower girl looked a little green around the gills, and threw up into her basket during the vows. I guess she was either given or sneaked some champagne as well. Wedding planner said they had argued the night before over whether they were going to drink before the wedding. Groom wanted to stay sober until the reception, Bride disagreed. Ran into the planner at another wedding, and she said they had a massive fight in the limo on the way to take pictures, which the Bride side of the wedding party was in no shape to participate in, so they skipped them. Photographer ended up doing a goofy shoot with the Groomsmen, since they had already paid for photos. Bride and bridesmaids sat in the limo drinking more.

Showed up to the reception, and the bride was passed out. Groom made an apology speech to the guests, and got an Uber home, alone.

On a nicer note, I was playing in a church that was not air conditioned, in the middle of August, and the bride passed out from the heat. Groom caught her, laid her down super gently, ran and got a chair while someone got her some orange juice, and did the entire ceremony with her in the chair, and him on one knee next to her. Was super sweet, and she cried the entire time. Another time, someone actually did try to do the "Speak now or forever hold your peace", and the Bride whips around, cuts the guy off and says "FOR THE FINAL TIME, NO. I NEVER HAVE OR NEVER WILL WANT TO BE WITH YOU. SHUT THE FUCK UP AND LET ME GET MARRIED", kisses her groom on the cheek, and says cheerfully "Now let's get married". Wasn't able to get any background details on that one though.

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u/Drumah 7d ago

Night before the wedding, the bride-to-be tried to sleep with me on her stag night, crying on my shoulder she wasn't ready for marriage.

Even my 18 year old hormonal brain did a big NOPE there. They lasted a year.

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u/The_Woman_S 7d ago

Long time ago- worked as a wedding planner/caterer (depended on the client): woman calls on Monday morning, her fiancé had proposed the day before (Sunday) and she wanted to get married that Saturday....

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u/GuaranteeComfortable 7d ago

We decided to get married within a 24 hr time span.Me and my hubs are still married and that was 10+ years ago.

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u/SpaceVolcano 7d ago

I work catering gigs in Florida. The bride was being super mean towards the groom during dinner and the reception, like a sarcastic "you should have known to do that already dumbass" tone. Our crew figured, yep, this is a short marriage. After the obligatory dances, and dinner had started the groom came up, tipped the dj, the photographers, then came over tipped our crew way too much, thanked us very sweetly, and said he was gonna skip away and drive down to the beach a few minutes away while the party continued. He never came back, next day we were told by the bride's family the sheriff found his car, the groom's body, and a gun down by the beach.

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u/Garion99 7d ago

God that got dark quick.

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u/SpaceVolcano 7d ago

Yeah, it fucked up the our friend who was the wedding planner pretty good since she had worked so closely with the families.

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u/Joveticklemyballs 7d ago

I ran a fairly upmarket hotel & restaurant that sometimes hosted weddings. Made a rookie error and booked in a wedding for Christmas Eve. This should have been a warning sign, as it shows a pretty significant lack of consideration for friends and family making them travel across the country on one of the most irritating days of the year, when we’d all rather be at home with family preparing for the next day.

They turned up 3 hours early and the battle axe of a bride proceeded to shout at us for not being prepared, surrounded by her incredibly embarrassed but not unsurprised family.

There were various other red flags throughout the night, but the main one was when the husband got blind drunk on whiskey and asked me to go to his hotel room with him and “break him in” as a married man. I politely refused.

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u/Dysthymia_ 7d ago

break him in

From your avatar i assume you're a man? What does that even mean?

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u/Joveticklemyballs 7d ago

Yeah, I’m a man. He wanted me to have sex with him. That final comment was after a couple other incidents.

He tried to squeeze my arse

He told me he could sense my star sign if I let him put his hand on my bare chest

He seemed completely miserable from the moment he arrived and during the planning of it all. In the prior meetings to the event he was always very timid and incapable of making any decisions, asking for different obscure options out of nowhere etc. At the time I put it down to general nerves, but I think he was really just trying to find any excuse to delay the inevitable

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u/supersaiyanmrskeltal 7d ago

I remember a wedding that I worked catering for that involved the Groom getting rather handsy with the Maid of Honor during the reception. Both were drunk and a bit too close. The Bride was on the dance floor flopping around drunk off her ass to a point of having to be escorted to a restroom to freshen up. Honestly, it always seems when the bride/groom get trashed during the reception, something happens that will cause them to split shortly after. Not always, but its just something I noticed during the weddings I have assisted with.

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u/RecommendationNo108 7d ago

Yes!

As the filmmaker, my entire job was centered around capturing shared moments of emotion & chemistry. These are what make it into the edit. These are what make your wedding film amazing.

But when you realize you have almost no chemistry to capture, it becomes clear that the edit is going to lack the magic that is, you know, love.

I can tell you of 2 experiences that I know of.

1: The couple treated the wedding like a bachelor party and only hung out with their respective circles. The groom drinking and laughing loudly amidst his drunk old men was not a good vibe, a very hostile table. The kicker? They each got their own photographers and filmmakers... eventually their conflict became our conflict.

They divorced very shortly after.

2: A political celebrity wedding, they didn't care about my camera crew and instead they invited and treated the papparazi cameras as priority! My main cam guy had to argue with security to get the shots we need! They essentially cared more about the next day front page & glamour magazines, than their memories. The guy was also known for corruption and there was an incident where his 'lover' arrived and made a scene... I just googled them now and I see they are publicly fighting each other in the news!

(She says he watches too much porn on a tv interview, then he had her arrested last week - wow!)

The rest of the weddings however, were incredibly amazing. As a young 20-something kid who never really traveled the world yet, filming weddings of different cultures was like getting a taste of culture, from crazy long but colourful Indian weddings to African weddings in nature, breaking plates at greek weddings... I learned lots, then moved on.

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u/Caligol 7d ago

That's awesome, thanks for sharing

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u/scoil44 7d ago

I worked in a tux shop for a while after highschool. The friction in a couple's relationship was directly correlated with how involved the mothers were. Whether it was motherzilla of the bride or a momma's boy groom, if they had their finger on the scale, you could see it.

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u/justanotherone1111 7d ago

My background is in Marriage and Family Therapy and I work at a wedding venue now. There have been many times that I thought a couple is destined for future therapy, if not divorce. Especially when I see the “four horsemen of the apocalypse” as described by Gottman— criticism, contempt, defensiveness, or stonewalling.

I also assume that things won’t end well when either of the bride or groom is a big bully towards me or the other vendors— it just makes me feel bad for the future spouse.

But we don’t tend to hear much from the couples once they are married, so I usually won’t know how things end up down the road.

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u/notasugarbabybutok 7d ago edited 7d ago

All the fucking time. You know how they say 50% of weddings end in divorce? I can pretty much predetermine who that 50% are going to be with about 98% accuracy.

I bake wedding cakes for a living. I own my own bakery, but have also worked in a country club kitchen, doing basically the same thing + other pastry chef duties day of weddings. I've seen them both for the tasting/design consultation, and on their wedding day. I see how they interact when they're just together, but also when under stress of the big day. I've seen everything. Lots of cheating, lots of drunks, lots of terrible mothers.

Once had a Mama's boy who ignored his wife when they were supposed to be having their cake tasting to cuddle their mother and hand feed her cake. His mother was NOT supposed to be there, and you could tell the bride was pissed. By the end of it he had kissed his mother on the lips multiple times. Divorce.

Have seen a woman bitch and complain at everything her fiancé said. Any suggestions he had for what he liked resulted in him being called stupid. Anytime she'd open her mouth he'd cower and flinch. Their cake actually got canceled like a month before the wedding, so we didn't get anything but the deposit even though we'd started baking it. First time I've lost out on money and I've been relieved.

Once had this arrogant dickhead Turkish guy marrying into this Bangladeshi family. Bride was sweet, about 10 years older than him, and came from a fairly well off family. Generally got the impression that this being a Turk/South Asian marriage was kind of a big deal, even though they're both Muslim, but since she was 30-something they wanted her to get married so they allowed it.

Guy complains about everything during the planning process, especially over them not serving alcohol. Is generally a dick to us, but is just straight up cruel to her. like at one point when we were meeting I asked after her wedding dress, because south asian wedding dresses are gorgeous. She's showing me this amazing dress and he says straight up 'I don't know what she picked that one, she looks fat and old in it. every other woman is going to be more beautiful than her one her wedding day.' He then shows me this dress he picked out, which isn't traditional south asian style at all, and is very western and very fugly and basically makes the model in the picture look naked it's so sheer. When she says something about how no mosque would let her in dressed like that and her traditions are important, he just sneered and said she should 'get over it' and her traditions weren't that important. Divorce red flag.

Found out later they didn't last a day. From the way the servers tell it, midway through the reception, guy raises his hand to his new bride when she asked him a question about being drunk and she flinched and turned away, protecting her face. He grabs her by the arm and rips her around, pissed. Her mother and aunt were standing three feet from her and lost their fucking minds, realizing what must've been happening there. His response when Mom started to lose her shit on him was to hit the mother. So in the middle of this very big, 600+ person Bangladeshi wedding, this 20-something outsider dickhead no one wanted her to marry anyway smacked a well respected woman in their community. There was a brawl, the cops were called, marriage was annulled.

Edit: because so many of you are asking: baking a cake in the weeks leading up to the even is standard. You bake the sponge triple wrap, and flash freeze. Frozen cakes are actually much, much less likely to taste dry or gross, because if you fresh bake they'll be sitting out for days on end until they can be decorated, and absorb whatever smells are in the refrigerator and dry out. Typically we also will cover them in simple syrup after thawing but before assembly, which is why bakery cakes are so much more moist than a lot of homemade ones. I've been working as a baker since I was 15, and this is very much the practice of every place I've ever worked when it comes to celebration cakes.

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u/LaoBa 7d ago

Good to hear her mom and aunt standing up for her.

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u/Schnokus 7d ago

I hope one of the girls had a brick-heavy handbag to hit him with.

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u/Valuesauce 7d ago

I’m honestly surprised he didn’t get beaten to death.

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u/Urgash54 7d ago

Probably would have, if the police wasn't called

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u/StevenArviv 7d ago

He’s lucky it was an alcohol free wedding. If that had been an Irish wedding, he’d be dead.

If this were a Macedonian wedding the groom would have been killed, buried, and they would tip the priest to perform the funeral service before the end of the evening.

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u/matysiu132 7d ago edited 7d ago

Once had a Mama's boy who ignored his wife when they were supposed to be having their cake tasting to cuddle their mother and hand feed her cake. His mother was NOT supposed to be there, and you could tell the bride was pissed. By the end of it he had kissed his mother on the lips multiple times. Divorce.

The fuck

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cuddle their mother

WAS HIS WIFE HIS SISTER?

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u/peachy888 7d ago

Genuinely curious which parts of the cake you start a month before the wedding?

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u/reallyhowfascinating 7d ago

Former bakery owner here. The layers in a wedding cake are seldom baked the day before the wedding. A busy bakery will have a lot of freezer capacity.

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u/benadrylsleepy 7d ago

Would layers baked in advance and frozen be able to be reused for another wedding? (Instead of taking a loss?) It would be depend on flavor of course, but I'm not sure how common the various sizes of layers are.

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u/notasugarbabybutok 7d ago edited 7d ago

You absolutely could, but depends on flavor, size, and how long they're frozen. some flavors hold up better than others for a lengthy freeze in my experience.

That being said, If I have people cancel on me when another wedding is doing the same flavor, I'll usually incorporate those cakes depending on a few factors. If the canceled one has a bigger base or whatever, I'll usually just ask if they'd want a slightly bigger one at a small fee (usually decorating fee, which is sometimes almost nothing if they just want plain fondant/buttercream.) No one turns down discounted cake.

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u/reallyhowfascinating 7d ago

So once a cake is delivered to the site the contract is fulfilled. You absolutely can’t take a cake back. I have cut deals, but I also structured my contract so that my cost of goods and labor was covered with the deposit.

The way I dealt with my operation was to have a back stock of flavors and tier sizes frozen. You cool and trim the layer, spray with simple syrup and or flavorings like espresso, booze & etc. then double wrap in plastic then a layer of foil. They can keep up to a year, but ideally tou like to use in a month or two. I had a wholesale and retail component so my rotation was usually under that. For specialty cakes not on my menu I would start the week of the event. A chilled layer is also easier to crumb coat and decorate in my opinion.

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u/ready_delete 7d ago edited 2d ago

Used to do wedding djing. Went to a storage room to grab some gear and walked in on the bride going down on the best man. I immediately closed the door, then thought, "wait, did that just happen?" And opened again to see the best man look like deer in headlights. I slammed the door again and went back to my post for the night. My coworker said, "don't say a fucking word! We don't get paid to get involved. Just collect the check and keep playing music."

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u/CapeAnnimal 7d ago

I had a buddy who put himself through grad school playing violin at weddings. He said there were several that 'everybody knew' it was the wrong choice. He said you could just see it in their eyes and how they walked.

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u/Duel_Loser 7d ago

If there's a walk of shame then surely there's a March of despair.

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u/PhilThecoloreds 7d ago

March of despair

starts on Monday

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u/Isshindoutai63 7d ago

All I can picture is Mark and Sophie's wedding in peep show

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u/tamale-smuggler5526 7d ago

O'yeah, definitely! Ceremony is coming up, but the groom is nowhere to be found. Everyone is looking for him. We look in the grooms lounge( hangout room where the groom and groomsmen hangout)there he is banging the maid of honor. Shame, shame, shame.

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u/sunnymuffin123 7d ago

I don't get the people. Just how much time did they think they have?

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u/helladamnleet 7d ago

Haven't you ever went in for a quicky thinking "I can cum quick, it's so easy! Just don't hold back!" and next thing you know the pressure is off so you last like 45 minutes?

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u/furry_hamburger_porn 7d ago

I'm a musician and the son of a wedding photographer.

I've actually played in a band whose leader, on the wedding day, took a deposit for the divorce party that was to follow. The groom's mother laid it down and said "I give it six months".

Nine months later, there we were, and there she (the bride) wasn't.

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u/ihatepeasoup 7d ago

I used to work at a popular wedding venue. Bride and groom came in the day before for rehearsal, checked the decorations, and played a sweet video of the couple, standard wedding bullshit. Next day, bride and groom arrived fighting the entire time until reception where the groom proceeded to drink himself blind before speeches and had to be carried out, didn't even get to play that video. It was the best shift ever, got to go home early and take home a bunch of food already paid for.

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u/TheGreatTiger 7d ago

Worked wedding receptions, here are some favorites:

Bride started stripping on the table while the groom was outside.

Bride and best man had sex in a closet.

Bride lost her ring less that 3 hours after being married.

Mother of the groom lit the table on fire because she didnt like the bride or her family.

Groom was passed out drunk less than 30 mins into the reception. He pregamed in the limo. Our bartender refused to serve him when he arrived. Groomsmen loaded him back into the limo to sleep it off and he didnt come back that night.

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u/iSutoraikou 7d ago

Shit went from 100 to 245 real fucking quick.

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u/WhoRUAgain 7d ago

I’m a wedding photographer, and the first red flag was how much flipping money they were spending. They had multiple venues, one was a golf resort. Really fancy schmancy. Could’ve bought a really reeeeally nice car with that kind of money. Down payment on an expensive home kind of money.

Second, when I showed up to do the getting ready shots in their house the husband’s family was really nice to me, almost treated me like a family friend. Whenever she was brought up his family would look at me and make a face or roll their eyes, obviously not happy with his choice of lady. It seemed implied that since they already had a kid that I guess he haaaaas to... which was kind of sad.

I had half a mind to tell him that he didn’t have to get married if he wasn’t happy. Which I may have implied very gently.. Not professional I know but she was kind of a monster, not just the day of, but even after. In my opinion, she treated her new husband really poorly. Right after the ceremony, they were outside and she was already yelling at him about something. Just checked, and they’re still married but according to her posts she’s antivax.

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u/hailbop 7d ago

I worked weddings as a server for about a year and saw a ton of different things but one stands out specifically. This venue was on a golf course and in the middle of the reception all of the groomsmen and the groom got drunk and decided it was a good idea to go swimming in one of the ponds in their tuxes. The bride was standing on the back porch screaming at them, asking him how he could be such a dumb ass and lamenting loud enough for the world to hear that she married him. I didn't see the bride for the rest of the reception after that. Pretty sure that marriage ended pretty quickly...

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u/MillennialProdigy 7d ago

Yes I’m a wedding photographer and think this often, when I’m at the rehearsal and they often have nasty arguments over small details

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u/FunDog2016 7d ago

Disrespect in the open, does it every time!

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u/wellthisjustsux 7d ago

I have never said a bad word to my husband in front of anyone. Nor him to me. We just don’t do that to each other. And rarely in private. Together 28 years. Married 23 soon.

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u/Hoo0oopla 7d ago edited 6d ago

As a recent divorcee - thanks for not being disrespectful to one another in public or private. And congrats on almost 30 years wow! You’re gonna be the old couple at the reception who get up and dance when the DJ is like, “and are there any couples who have been together for 100 or more years?! Nah I’m just kidd-“

Edit: g’awww thanks for my very first Awards you lovely internet strangers! :’)

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u/rainingnovember 7d ago

If my last ex has taught me anything, it's that respect always matters. Love is not enough - you need to respect your partner and show compassion too.

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u/FearlessIntention 7d ago edited 7d ago

Not me, but my little brother did catering for a bit after he graduated college. He told me a few stories:

Groom drank ten beers during dinner, proceeded to projectile vomit on the wedding cake.

Bride's mother overheard groom talking about his high school wrestling career, tried to drag bride out of the venue yelling about "I TOLD YOU TO FIND A GENTLEMAN"

Bride and groom got into a fistfight before dinner because bride had ordered lilacs instead of roses for the tables out of personal preference

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u/anoukdaae 7d ago

Oh yes.
Right off the bat, what should have tipped me off was that the groom's last name translated to literally "dick."
His bride was the definition of a Bridezilla, forcing us to make accommodations on things we do as free courtesies that aren't actually paid for or at all included in the package she got.
She got it in the end, but not before she made my life hell for a week while I was temping in the office.
For her tasting, we had her table set up in our ballroom along with the tables of 4 other couples, all coming in at different times. My sister was her coordinator, I was the butler on staff that day. This woman stole some flowers off another couple's table, then got mad when I took them from her table and put them back. Then she and her husband started running their mouth to their coordinator, who they loved and didn't know was my sister, about how I tried to tell them no and enforce company policy (how dare I do my job). My sister clapped them back by calling me over and introducing me as her baby sister, they immediately stammered out an apology.
From there, it was mostly smooth sailing for me.
But the reason we knew they were headed for a divorce was that the bride got wasted at her tasting because "lol it's free and I want to know everything on your bar's menu." Within an hour, the trips to the bathroom started. Each time she went, the groom would not just flirt but aggressively hit on every woman in the ballroom.

Day of the wedding comes around. The groom got into a fight with a groomsman that shattered one of our glass doors that led into the courtyard. The bride got drunk and spent most of the night crying in the bathroom. The groom ended up hooking up with a bridesmaid in the limo, where he was caught by his mother, which apparently is what started the fight with his groomsman. It was a shit show.
They didn't even last the full honeymoon. The bride and her mother came back three days later demanding a refund because they were getting the marriage annulled.

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u/Birdapotamus 7d ago

I've been the DJ at a few hundred weddings. There was drama at most of them in some way. One in particular broke out into an old school saloon style fight like in the old "Western" movies.

I'm pretty sure that one didn't last.

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u/SeveralAngryBears 7d ago

Anybody get thrown through a window?

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u/incognito--bandito 7d ago

This is the correct question

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u/disposable-name 7d ago

My mate used to DJ at receptions.

Said he had to bump out through a large bathroom window once after a massive fight broke out in the venue's only exit.

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u/SayAgainSally 7d ago

I don't work in the wedding industry, but last fall a friend of my husband's got married. It was a private ceremony due to Covid, but they posted a video of it on Facebook afterwards. In the video, the bride does her walk up to the "altar" (it was outdoors), holds up her finger as if to say "just a second", and pulls out her cellphone. There's like a solid minute of her texting someone while her poor groom just awkwardly stands there before she finally allows the ceremony to proceed. Super cringy.

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u/YaDrunkBitch 7d ago

I bake wedding cakes and cookies but this happened before I was in the business.

A week before the wedding bride was talking all about how excited she was to get married because that meant she could finally do cocaine.

What???????

Groom was confused and asked for more info.

Bride was like, "Well they say when you do drugs, you should do them with someone you trust." She planned on them doing it on there honeymoon.

When he straight up said no, she threatened to call off the wedding. He said fine, call it off.

Wedding still happened, she gave in.

BUUUT three months later, she took their 7 MONTH OLD DAUGHTER to a drug party at her sister's while groom was working.

He found out about it, showed up at the house, everyone was passed out, and his daughter was screaming crying on the bedroom floor.

He took her, and left without a word to anyone. Packed his bags and never contacted bride again.

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u/ThePotatoOverlord7 7d ago

Fuuuuuuckkkkkk, I’m so happy that he took their kid an noped the absolute fuck out of that relation. I really wish him and his daughter the beat in life.

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u/Samhamwitch 7d ago

I've told this story before but I was working as a cook at a golf course and, at one of the weddings we catered, the bride got incredibly drunk and kept sitting in the laps of all the male guests and flirting with them pretty heavily. I think she made out with one of them too IIRC. Her new husband just sat at the head table by himself looking more and more like a guy who made a $30,000 mistake.

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u/LunarNight 7d ago

Ugh I photographed this awful couple. She was a sour cow, barely cracked a smile and all day she was following him round saying "Maaaark! Get my shoes! Maaaark! Where's my bag? Maaaark!" He looked completely miserable and barely spoke all day. At one point we asked them to kiss for a photo and she said "Oh, we're not that kind of couple."

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u/TinyNuggins92 7d ago

My wife has been a wedding photographer and I've helped her out from time to time. One of the first weddings we did, I got this really trashy vibe off the bride. I couldn't quite place my finger on what specifically set it off, but if I had to guess, I would probably pin it on my extended family, many of whom could be extras in Deliverance. I just ended up with a sixth sense of these things. I told my, then-girlfriend (now wife) that I don't think they're going to last very long.

Sure enough, a few months later, my wife is contacted by the mother of the bride for the wedding photos. She asks why the bride didn't contact her about it, as she's tried to reach her a few times, and the mother just said she's been "indisposed" for a bit, and if she could just send the photos to her. I get into Google-fu mode and look up the bride, and after a bit of digging, find an arrest report for 3 days after the wedding from Florida (where the honeymooned). She was arrested for publicly assaulting her new husband while drunk and putting him in the hospital.

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u/Toronto_Planner 7d ago

I was a wedding planner for almost a decade and saw these types of couples regularly. My biggest key indicator for this was whether they cared more about the wedding day than actually being married to one another.

For example, I remember one couple who really wanted an over-the-top wedding that would be good enough to be featured in a popular luxury wedding magazine. They spared no expense. They became so obsessed with this that they were even choosing members of their bridal party based on their looks rather than their relationship with them. The bride had 2 brothers, one brother looked like a model for Hugo Boss and her other brother looked a bit like fat Thor. Well, only the "hot" brother was selected to be a groomsman. Things like this caused a lot of tension between family members and fights between the couple. It was awkward a lot of the time. I knew for sure this couple wouldn't make it for long.

Interestingly enough, the couple divorced a week before their wedding was featured in that luxury bridal magazine.

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u/delnorteduck 7d ago

I used to drive a limo and did a few weddings. This one Saturday afternoon I am picking up both bride and groom, best man and maid of honor.

Poor groom has his arm in a full cast and immobilized with a steel rod. Turns out he had shattered iy a week earlier while riding an ATV.

They all get in the car and the bride-to-be starts ragging him hard core, telling him he is such an idiot, he has ruined the wedding, he is such a loser. She is not letting up and not letting go. Obviously she knew about the injury so it wasn't a surprise. She was just using it to drop F bombs and other unwholesome words in his general direction

I pull up to the church and she and the maid of honor leap out and go into the church. The best man asks if he still wants to go through with the wedding, and the poor dumb schmuck says yes with the enthusiasm of a sleepy sloth.

I just wanted to say "No, dude. Dont spend the next few years with that Witch Bitch." But he was getting out of the car by then. I dont know how it turned out, bit I am sure it wasn't good.

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u/cRuSadeRN 7d ago

He picked the right friend to be his best man. At least someone had his back and gave him an out if he wanted it. She sounds like a nightmare

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u/mr_pineapples44 7d ago edited 7d ago

I've been that best man. I tried to talk my mate out of his wedding. He wasn't having it. She was a fucking nightmare. Obviously they split, and he was like, 'you were the only one who told me the truth - I suck for not listening'

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u/guppiesandshrimp 7d ago

Sometimes only those closest to us will question our decisions but still support us when we make the wrong one. You sound like a good friend to him.

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u/millycactus 7d ago

Probably 2 late but after seven years in the industry 2 stand out.

I. Groom focused on “the boys” all night. Rarely saw the bride and groom together. In his speech he mentioned the bridesmaids and groomsmen the proceeded to spend the rest of his speech talking about his new place of “hierarchy” in the family. Never mentioned her. 3 months later it was over.

Second and most favourite. TLDR: bride drives herself to the ceremony, pops the Ute and skulls a drink in front of the guests. Is drunk before the reception begins. Shows the mc she’s not wearing anything but her garter under the dress. Pulls her strapless dress down to show me her nipple. Groom spends whole night outside chain smoking. And that’s the short version.

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u/SquidPies 7d ago

please give us the long version lol

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u/anjqas 7d ago

What’s the deal with many answers talking about the bride fucking the best man?

Why would the brides suddenly find the groom’s brother/best friend irresistible on the wedding day? And what kind of sick people fuck their friend’s fiancé on the wedding day.

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u/josephblade 7d ago

Why do people put pennies up their ass? Power moves are hard to explain sometimes and often uncomfortable. But you probably have ass pennies on you right now.

I hope this isn't too obscure a quote because that just makes me sound like a psycho out of context

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u/HorsesAndAshes 7d ago

Idk, I went to a wedding where the bride was "getting changed" in the camper they brought as a make-up and dressing room (wedding was at a lake, super nice actually) when the best man came out the driver's side door (faced away from where the party was) and I caught eye contact with him like "oh fuck" (I was late to the reception area as I was taking my own pictures of scenery at the ceremony location). Bride came out the main camping door in the "party" dress and kicked off the drinking... But uh.... Yeah.

They lasted less than a year, best man ended up arrested for stalking the bride after they broke up a few years later.... The groom ended up with a doll of a girl and their kids are adorable and go to the same school as mine. So karma works y'all.

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u/PeachPuffin 7d ago

After reading all of these, I think people that work in the wedding industry should be hired as matchmakers, they clearly know what to look for!

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u/5h0ck 7d ago

Well, usually canceling the wedding twice the week before the actual wedding is a good sign.. They made it two weeks before divorce.

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u/PhoneSteveGaveToTony 7d ago

I'm a DJ and do 20-30 weddings each year.

Bride booked me for a wedding, cancelled because she said they weren't getting married anymore and wanted her deposit back. I explained the deposit was nonrefundable, but she could apply it toward any future event, either for her or someone else. She contacted me 4ish months later wanting to book me for her wedding again...to someone else.

Another one the groom was wasted before the end of dinner. When the dancing started he started grinding on his best man as a joke. Then one of the groomsmen. Then his own aunt. Then a bridesmaid who looked very uncomfortable. The bride had already been pissed at him the whole night and lost her shit when she saw him do that. She started screaming at him then grabbed his sleeve and pulled him outside. I didn't see them for most of the night. We skipped the first dance, cake cutting, etc., but the bride resurfaced to throw the bouquet. She started drinking and turning up with her friends, but I didn't see the groom for the rest of the reception. I eventually saw him outside when I went to load up my equipment. He was angrily talking to his dad and someone else. The odds weren't looking too good for them.

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u/Devers95 7d ago

I worked in a rough as hell hotel bar in Rotherham, UK and loved working the weddings. Two stand out which will definitely end in divorce:

  1. The groom was obviously from a more well-off, snobby family and his wife's family was a bit rough around the edges. He seemed like an alright bloke, none of his family turned up to the wedding. Literally none. His speech was a bit sad, thanking the people that bothered to turn up etc.

  2. Buckle up for this. A couple who both had adult kids from different partners getting married. I served the grooms son, then the brides daughter who began arguing at the bar. The brides daughter offered the grooms son a fight outside to which he accepted and leathered her. So she called her male mates to come around and beat him up. They were met by the bride who was furious her daughter had called up lads to crash the wedding so she grabbed a bottle and glassed a guy. Amazing. 10/10.

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u/Ocelotocelotl 7d ago

I never understand why Americans think we're posh. This is the most quintessentially British story ever.

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u/an_albany_expression 7d ago

Bit late to this party but I played in a wedding band for several years. A wedding we played was being held at a farm and we were provided a green room/space to change which was one of two small rooms built into the side of a barn.

After the first set was finished, we (and a few of the guests) all head back to this barn to hang out. Once we're inside, we can clearly hear 2 people having sex in the other barn room.

We all think it's funny as hell and start making all sorts of noise to let the couple know that we're there. The sex noises stop immediately but nothing else happens for a while and we all think it's just an embarassed couple sorting themselves out and bracing for the walk of shame.

20 minutes goes by and still nothing so one of the guests knocks on the door to ask if everything is alright. The door opens and the best man (who is married) appears and literally bolts out of the barn as fast as he can with his jacket over his head to try and hide his face. Then a few seconds later, the bride walks out and starts crying her eyes out. Turns out they'd been sleeping together behind the grooms back for quite a while.

The groom got wind of it, there was a lot of shouting and then not sure what happened afterwards. We just packed down and got the hell out of there.

Then, strangely, a few years later we got an enquiry from the bride and best man to play THEIR wedding, at the same venue.

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u/randomboorishbuffoon 7d ago

My friend's family owns a small hotel that's popular as a destination wedding location. They have a giant suite for the bride and groom that's included with cost of thr wedding. At about 11:00 the night before the wedding, after the rehearsal, a call is made for room service, enough food for 20 people. When it gets brought up the door is answered by a naked woman (not the bride), and the staff delivering are asked to bring it in. When they go in, there's a huge orgy going on. The bride and groom are the center peices, her with 3 guys and him with 3 girls, and dozens of others having sex all throughout the room. Each delivery person is given $50, and told not to tell the family about it as they wouldn't understand and it would just freak them out. Once back downstairs the staff are talking about how the marriage will never last. 2 years later the bride and groom are there for the wedding of their friends, where it all happens again. Turns out they are all swingers and a pre wedding orgy has become a tradition between their swinger friends.

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u/Little-Card2083 7d ago

Not necessarily a divorce between the happy couple but while working weddings one summer I saw the best man and maid of honor walk out of the same bathroom like 10 seconds apart, so I’ve always wondered how that went over

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u/dogecoinfiend 7d ago

Maybe they were banging, but it’s a wedding, let’s not rule out cocaine.

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u/IfPeepeeislarge 7d ago

Did they at least close the goddamn door though?

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u/Enfireno 7d ago

Calm down. It's better to face these kinds of things with a sense of poise and rationality.

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u/bryannadz 7d ago

When I used to work the occasional wedding on weekends there was this one couple that made me think yea she’s going to end up alone. She took the microphone in the middle of a song that everyone was happily dancing to and then kept saying “it’s my day but I’ll wait til your done your conversation!” “Don’t worry it’s only my wedding day” “helloooo bride wants to talk” blah blah it was hella rude, when she was finally satisfied with the silence she started her speech by berating everyone for taking so long to be quiet and then went on to talk about how she’s so happy and she loves her husband and don’t take the centre pieces. It was awful if I was a guest I would’ve taken my gift and left

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u/midnightishh 7d ago

my pap was a pastor when he was alive, & he did loads of weddings. during the planning stage he sat down and had a talk with each couple about their past and how they wanted their marriage to go. he told me that he had some times where he would look the couple in their eyes and say “i think you need to reconsider marrying.” he could tell they were unhappy or not on the same page, but he still had some who insisted on marrying! he told me so many stories about messy ceremonies with awkward receptions.

i hoped he would officiate my own wedding someday, but he passed before he could. he was a brilliant man and i miss him so much.

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u/Icnbaw 7d ago

I am not in the industry. I have a story anyway. When me and my wife were about to celebrate our fifth wedding anniversary my family let me know that they had a pool. When we got married for how long we would last. None of them had us lasting longer then a year. This year we are going to be celebrating 19 years married together. We feel that after 2020 we are having the best time together and still best friends. The pot was never claimed.

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u/muthaclucker 7d ago

Honestly I was thinking swimming pool, but it’s hot here so...

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u/bluestarsunday 7d ago edited 7d ago

The pot was never claimed.

They should give you the pot on your 20th anniversary.

ETA: thank you for the awards, kind redditors

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u/Icnbaw 7d ago

That would be funny. They all took their money back.

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u/Smart-Connection6154 7d ago

My sister in law (who got married because she was pregnant and is a miserable person) spent our wedding loudly telling anyone who would listen that we wouldn't last 6 months. She apparently told everyone in the pub we used to frequent that we didn't go on honeymoon but we were "hiding" to make everyone think we had gone away, but were actually consulting with lawyers to start the proceedings. We have been married nearly 4 years now. I bet us leaving the city where my husband's family lives has brought about some new stories about us too...

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u/Rebel-Yellow 7d ago

I’ve shot a couple of weddings and the worst “yikes” one involved a bride who would glare at the groom nearly 97% of the time. Made my job getting good photos to try and paint the day in a happy light near impossible and when grilled with the “why didn’t you get more shots, I paid for your service didn’t I?” From the bride was awkward as hell. To be fair I only barely was able to scrap together enough to meet the contract’s expectations due to the bride scowling the majority of the time. For some added context; it was a relatively small family/friends only wedding and held on some land that one of the parents owned. The groom was having fun and talking to all sorts of people introducing himself to those he hadn’t met and was overall a really cool dude who was super excited for the whole event, the bride was a contemptful bridezilla that hated he was having fun and the attention wasn’t solely on her, I’d detail more but some of the .. ‘events’ of the day can only be explained with some details that would dox me pretty quick to anyone at the event. This was the one that made me get out of wedding photography.

From the context of Facebook they got divorced about 3 months afterwards. The groom had nothing but nice things to say about my work and how glad he was I got shots of him and his now late dad together smiling, while the bride complained about just about everything. “Why didn’t you get any good pictures of me and my mother?!” Because literally half an hour after I arrived on sight you had told me you were avoiding her because she ‘was a selfish bitch who shouldn’t even be here.’ Ugh. While profitable it is such an exhausting market/industry.

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u/rahkshi_hunter 7d ago

Not due to the couples per se, but due to the weddings. Two weddings stand out to me:

1) Small wedding (about 50 guests): the groom and his family were white; the bride and hers were black; both the bride and groom were over 35. The DJ played music, but absolutely nobody danced. Barely anyone spoke. Seemed like nobody really wanted to be there.

2) The best man (brother of the bride) got drunk, became belligerent, and sucker-punched the wedding planner. Cops show up, and he tried to hit them too. He got arrested, and had to be hog-tied. The bride was in tears. The groom was pissed off, and made no attempts to try and comfort her.

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u/Why-did-i-reas-this 7d ago

Former ballroom dance instructor. I remember thinking many times when choreographing couples first dances.. why are you with him/her? They were rude to each other or didn't care about the other's viewpoint.

I know it was just a small section of their life but you just know sometimes that this will not work long-term. Also, it was oh so much fun when they came in and you could tell they just had a huge fight in the car.

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u/RaF_MAL 7d ago

I worked at a hotel in the kitchen, we did a trashy wedding where the cake was brought in from walmart, groom was caught making out with a bridesmaid in a conference room and we saw the bride throw her ring into a storm drain across the street.

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u/LaoBa 7d ago

The advantage of cheap rings

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u/Grraaa 7d ago

Likely purchased from the same Walmart.

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u/Trussmagic 7d ago

I never worked in the industry but I was a best man in a wedding that was never meant to be. Best friend begins a tawdry relationship with a the girlfriend of another guy. I tell him to cool it and let her break-up so that maybe they can start off on right foot. Needless to say that never happened.

When he asked me to be his best man I told him I didn't think either of them was ready. Never the less I relented and agreed. By the day of the wedding I was sure they were both in for a rude awakening, The groom seemed to sense it himself. I told the groom here are the keys to my car and here is $300 go somewhere and just get away now.

He didn't and it ended 6 years later with cheating and 2 kids who would never understand.

15 years later I hooked him up with a genuine person who he has been married to for 15 years or so. I was his best man again and I told him if he left this one he was the fool.

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